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Prepare for a difficult workplace conversation.

Turn a tense or uncertain moment into a clear purpose, grounded facts, a direct request, and a concrete next step.

Use this checklist before a conversation about feedback, workload, boundaries, conflict, performance, or a decision that matters.

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Work through the conversation in order.

Write short notes rather than a full script. The goal is to stay clear enough to listen and adapt in the moment.

  1. 01

    Define the outcome

    Decide what this conversation needs to accomplish before you choose the wording.

    • What needs to change, be decided, or become clearer?
    • What is the best realistic outcome for this conversation?
  2. 02

    Ground it in facts

    Separate observable events from assumptions about intent or character.

    • Which two or three specific examples support the concern?
    • What impact did those events have on the work or people involved?
  3. 03

    Make the request clear

    Name the action, decision, support, or boundary you are asking for.

    • What exactly do you want the other person to do?
    • Where can you be flexible, and what is not negotiable?
  4. 04

    Plan the opening

    Lead with purpose so the other person does not have to guess why you are there.

    • Can you state the purpose in one calm sentence?
    • Which detail belongs first, and which background can wait?
  5. 05

    Prepare for the response

    Anticipate questions without scripting or controlling the other person's reaction.

    • What concern, objection, or missing context might you hear?
    • What question will help you understand their perspective?
  6. 06

    Close with a next step

    Turn the discussion into a decision, owner, deadline, or follow-up point.

    • What should each person do after the conversation?
    • When and how will you confirm progress or revisit the issue?

A starting structure

Draft a clear opening

I want to discuss [topic] because [impact]. I noticed [specific facts]. I'd like us to [request]. Could we agree on [next step]?

Read it aloud once. Shorten anything that sounds defensive, vague, or unlike your natural voice.